What if I allowed myself to believe that I am deeply loved and cherished?
If I truly allowed myself to believe that I am deeply loved and cherished I wouldn't fear being alone, or being totally left for someone else. I wouldn't fear loss and grief in the same way because I know love is constant, even when that person has passed away. I would therefore be able to enjoy the sometimes lengthy periods of time I spend on my own much more. I would feel supported and brave enough to keep making leaps in the direction I want my life to go, whether or not I had approval from my family or friends. If I allowed myself to feel deeply loved and cherished I wouldn't be scared that the magnitude of my love is too much for some people. I wouldn't worry that it would be misunderstood. I wouldn't worry that people think I'm selfish or greedy. I wouldn't be upset when the people I love need space or distance. It would help me feel that they just need time alone or to do other things, as I do. It's not that they would prefer me to go away. If I allowed myself to believe that I am deeply loved and cherished I wouldn't fear anger or disapproval. I wouldn't feel shamed or anxious that there is a part of me deep down that has something to be ashamed of. I would be able to just say what I want and need; all the people I love in my life again, in some form - even if it looks very different to before. I wouldn't have such a tight grasp on the life I want and imagine, I would let the 'what ifs' go and trust everything I want and dream of is coming, at the right time, and that I am exactly where I need to be.
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6/12/2018 0 Comments THE BODY LANGUAGE OF RELATIONSHIPSIf you were to outwardly display your relationships to the world through body language, what would they look like?
A common set up is: one person leaning forwards, reaching for the other. Their partner, in response, is standing bolt upright. They may even be leaning back slightly with their arms crossed tightly over their chest. You can see the interplay of emotion here. One person is expressing, so clearly, that they want their lover so much that they'll stand unsteady, ready to grasp onto the other person for support. Eventually they'll fall forwards, ungrounded. They are willing to let themselves go to have someone else. No wonder they feel scared and unsteady. The other person is far more reserved, self-protective and closely guarding their heart. As they lean away, they too put themselves out of balance as they try to avoid being pulled out of alignment. They want love, but again, it's no wonder they consider stepping out of the way. Yet what happens if these pained people - who love each other - pause, breathe and return to mountain pose. The foundation of all standing poses, this position is often used at the beginning of a yoga sequence or as a resting pose. It also improves posture. Yoga is everywhere. When your relationship feels out of balance, stand firmly in your own foundation. Stay in this pose for a few minutes, and imagine your partner in front of you, doing the same. Your weight should be balanced evenly between your feet, 3-5 inches apart. Your leg muscles, which support you and move you forwards in life should be firm - engaged. Your body is light, yet strong. A line of energy is moving all the way up your torso and out of the crown of your head, which is balanced directly over the centre of your pelvis. Lengthen your spine - stand tall and make sure your tailbone is towards the floor. Your shoulder blades are back and down, your sternum is lifted but not over-extended. Your arms hang comfortably, beside you. Palms are forward-facing, open. Where's your tongue? Is it pressed to the top of your mouth? Let it loosen - it should be wide and flat in your mouth. Keep your chin parallel to the floor and relax your throat. Now, soften your eyes until they are almost shut. Imagine gazing at your lover in front of you. See them mirroring you. This time they are balanced, strong, and equal in love. |
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